Care-giving creates wisdom for successful behavioral changes… (366/162 June 10, 2012)
"…As mammals, we also evolved the attachment/affiliation system as a survival strategy. Mammals have the innate capacity to be soothed by warmth and affection, meaning that our young are likely to stay near caregivers, be protected, and survive. The care-giving system deactivates the sympathetic nervous system (reducing cortisol) and activates the parasympathetic nervous system, which calms us down. This route to emotional safety is much more effective — reducing our stress and anxiety rather than exacerbating it. And it gives us the emotional balance needed to make wise decisions, including making behavioral changes if needed. – So the next time you find yourself in the throws of harsh self-criticism, instead of beating yourself up for beating yourself up, thank your inner critic for its efforts, then try the strategy of giving yourself some compassion instead. It’s more effective, and a lot less painful!"
Why We Need to Have Compassion for Our Inner Critic by Kristin Neff www.huffingtonpost.com/kristin-neff/self-compassion_b_157…
By ConnectIrmeli on 2012-06-10 11:32:58